Sep 17, 2013

Body language techniques that may help you in understanding what folks are actually saying

By Daniel Dunder


Even if you don't say a word, folks can still learn much about what type of person you are and what you are thinking and feeling. How do other people do this? By studying your body language. The term body language alludes to the messages you send out with your body gestures and facial expressions.

It's quite vital to learn non-verbal communication so as to really hear what folks are saying. Some communication experts claim that between 5-10% of our communicaton is done through the words we speak. The rest of our messages are conveyed through our body language, tone of voice, and face expressions. During your whole life you have been sending messages to others through your posture, gestures, and face expressions. When you were an infant, before you learned to talk, folks were peering into your small baby face, looking at your gestures, and listening to your tiny cries and gurgles, making an attempt to decode what sort of mood you were in, and what you were making an attempt to say. And you've been reacting to the body language, voice tone, and face expressions of the people around you all of your life, even though you might have not been consciously aware of it.

What sorts of messages are you conveying to others with your body language? Does your body language encourage others to come up to you? Or do you subliminally warn them to stay away? Take a moment to think about how you typically stand or sit when you are with other people. What are you doing with your hands? Where are you looking with your eyes? Does your face express interest in the people you are with, or does your face stay a tense, hard mask? When you're standing or sitting, do you sometimes cross your arms across your chest? If this is your classic way of standing or sitting, how does one think others interpret this pose? Did you understand that most people will subliminally interpret your arms crossed in front of your chest as a signal that you do not want anyone to approach you? Only the most courageous souls are probably going to come forward when you adopt this posture.

If you stand clumsily, with your chest slumped forward, your shoulders sagging, and your eyes avoiding everyone else, folks are likely to decide you are extraordinarily depressed or totally lacking in confidence. They may fear that making an attempt to talk with you will be a clumsy experience. When you stand roughly, you don't project any sign you are confident in yourself, or that you've got any interest in the people around you. Instead you seem like you are endeavoring to vanish. No matter how hopelessly you would like someone to come over and befriend you, if your body language projects disinterest in others, it's not very likely that many folk will try and start a dialogue with you.

If some body language signals can frighten folks away, are there signals which will encourage folks to step forward and come up to you? Yes, you can look much more approachable to others if you adopt body language that's open and non-threatening. Whether or not you are standing or sitting, aim for a posture that's upright and alert, yet relaxed. If you notice that your chest or shoulders are slumping, straighten up. Become aware of the way you are respiring. Does your breath move out and in smoothly? Or does it move with jerky little stops and starts? If you spot you are holding your breath, or inhaling a shallow, jerky demeanour, this is an indication of anxiousness. When you breathe shallowly, you have got to breathe more often, which can raise your appearance of anxiousness. Consciously tell all of the muscles of your body to relax. Use your stomach to help you breathe smoothly and deeply. Let the bottom part of your lungs fill up with air as well as the top. What are you doing with your hands? If you get scared in social eventualities, you may feel that irrespective of what you do with your hands, it's the wrong thing. Many of us who cross their arms in front of their chest are probably doing so at least in part because they do not know where else to put their hands.

Stay conscious of and concentrated on your surroundings and the people around you. If you find yourself tuning out your environment, you will start to focus too deeply on your inner thoughts. This may swiftly boost your anxiety to a uncomfortable level. It's important to notice that even when you're not talking, you are communicating. You would like to make certain that you are sending out the message that you need folks to be receiving. Non-verbal communication is something worth thinking about, and consciously working on improving. It could be a tremendous tool, reinforcing what. You need to say, or may lead to confusion it your non-vebal cues aren't supporting the words coming out of your mouth.




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